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Whether it’s love, money or sex, many women are finding themselves stuck with men who don’t respect and treat them well. Why Good Girls Date Bad Boys can help you!

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Chapter 1: Bad Boys are Leaders with No Direction

Almost any woman would say the same thing when asked what she looks for in a guy: “He has to be cute and smart, with a fantastic sense of humor.”

Does that sound familiar? Maybe you can plead guilty to saying those exact words. There’s nothing wrong with seeking these qualities in the opposite sex, but why do so many women settle for the exact opposite of what they say they’re looking for? Rather than laughing or being intellectually stimulated by their partners, multitudes of women are crying, worrying, and not growing whatsoever from their relationships.

What Women Say vs. What Women Do

It’s no secret that women are the more emotional of the two sexes. If something hurts a woman, she’ll make no reservations against crying it out, and she’ll jump at the opportunity to discuss it with others. These emotions can be a valuable tool for dealing with life, finding much- needed strength, and simply keeping one’s sanity. On that same note, a woman’s feelings can directly affect her love life, and she won’t even realize it.

When it comes to attraction, women use both the emotional and logical sides of their brains. The logical aspect is what convinces her that she wants a nice guy with all the works. It tells the woman that a suitable mate is one who is physically attractive, makes a decent living, cares about others, and is funny (among other desirable qualities).

In short, the logical side of her brain tells the woman she wants a man who she can bring home to Mom.

At the time, this all makes sense, until the emotional aspect of her psyche kicks in. This is the side of a woman’s thinking that excites her. The reasons why she is mentally stimulated make no sense, nor do they matter. Her eyes send a message of physical attraction to this side of her brain, and suddenly, her body is flooded with sexual stimulation.

The problem arises when the emotional and logical sides of a woman’s brain don’t mesh. Characteristics that a woman should seek in a mate her brain, and suddenly, her body is flooded with sexual stimulation.

The problem arises when the emotional and logical sides of a woman’s brain don’t mesh. Characteristics that a woman should seek in a mate don’t match up to what she actually goes after, and this is a recipe for disaster. She could have the foresight to abandon ship before developing a relationship, but more often than not, her feelings take over, and she finds herself on a downward spiral of relationship regret.

She is stuck.

But what is it about the emotional side of a woman’s brain that contributes to bad mating decisions? Will the logical side of the mind ever take precedence over the emotional side? Is there any way to retrain the brain into making better decisions about the opposite sex? Why do so many women say they want one thing from a man, only to go after completely different personalities?

Let’s examine these questions further.

Nice Guys versus Bad Boys

Nice guys finish last.

Believe it or not, this statement is true. The logical side of a woman’s brain tells her that she wants a nice guy, but the emotional side of her couldn’t disagree more. While most women don’t set out to be physically or verbally abused, they instinctually gravitate towards men who excite them, and nice guys aren’t exciting.

Compared to bad boys, nice guys wait to speak, insist on paying for everything, and are always accessible to the opposite sex. They treat women with respect, don’t pressure their dates into having sex, and never stray. In other words, their mothers taught them well, and their love lives are paying for it.

This may sound like nonsense to you, but think about how many nice guys you’ve turned away. What was it about them that didn’t appeal to you? If you’re like most women, you were turned off by the lack of a challenge, and it’s just human nature to want what one cannot have. Nice guys always pick up the phone, never have any other plans, and devote everything they can to making a woman happy.

Where’s the challenge in that?

Bad boys have an entirely different approach to women, and it seems to work wonders for them. Instead of appealing to a girl’s logic, bad boys tap into her emotions, and they reap the benefits of doing so. Of course most of these emotions involve sadness, anger, or anxiety, but they are stimulating nevertheless. A woman dating a bad boy is drawn to the challenge of never knowing what’s coming next.

She’s literally sent on an emotional rollercoaster ride.

This is naturally appealing to most women, especially those who crave drama. Compared to bad boys, nice guys are nothing but dull characters. Women are drawn to a bad boy’s sexual aggressiveness, and they view his apathetic nature as a conquest of sorts. If he treats her badly, she wants him to love her all the more.

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